Daddy's tractor is gone!

  

  August 10, 2022

I did not sleep but maybe 1 1/2 hours this morning because of being so upset about how things transpired yesterday over Dad's tractor and Derrick's entitled attitude.  I feel he was bulling me and spoke in text to me in such a horrible and nasty way.  That is all documented in my two proper blogs from last night.  

Today I woke up to the following text from Derrick which was sent to me at 9:05 am

"After being up all night, I want to thank you for the opportunity to buy the tractor at a decent price and having time to find parts and price repairs, then in 5 hours having that opportunity ripped out from under me and get told that they are picking it up and my check will not be accepted, then, after a complete shit show, to a cash only offer that will have no proof of me buying anything and basically being told still that my check is no good!  I have decided that it's not worth the drama or the money and this is just how "family" treats "family" after the leader passes (was always warned about it)! Your true colors really showed yesterday, and it really sucks that you are ok with the way you treat the ones that were supposed to be close to you over a few dollars!  Can you imagine how you would be acting right now if grandpa hadn't sold me the farm when he did!  He knew!  Enjoy your money!  The keys will be left in the tractor for your "business deal" to go smoothly!"

5:34 pm - "Just got my repair bids back, thanks again for the time to figure it out and make a decision, so generous of you"

8:05 pm - "That's fine keep ignoring me!  I like it when you don't run your mouth!  Just wondering how it feels to hurt Layne?  Supposedly someone you "love" he watched every bit of this go down!  I could care less if you hate me for some reason!  I'm an adult and can handle it!, but Layne, a 14 year old kid that has done nothing but love you!  How does it feel to rip one of the best memories he has with his papa away from him?  How does it feel to crush his dream of fixing that tractor up?  How does it feel selling it for fast money and not giving Laynes dad a fighting chance to save it for him? How do you think layne felt today seeing that tractor on that trailer leaving papas farm?  Please god I pray for answers on why you did what you did to hurt me and never thought about what Layne had invested in that tractor?  I am sorry for my anger last night, but you brought it out of me!  Several other "family" members don't understand either!  We will wait for answers!  Why was selling it to Abilene Machine a better option for you than giving us time to make something happen for Layne?"

8;44 pm - I responded to Derrick with this text:  "My mistake was to believe in people and take them at their word.  You told me multiple times you do not want Gpa"s tractor, that you will not buy that tractor. You even sent your son to my house 2 evenings to tell me that again because you made a deal on a new tractor.  I'm sorry if I misunderstood the meaning of "do not want" & "will not buy". I do not appreciate feeling bullied and spoken to in the horrible & nasty manor in the things you texted to me.  Responding anything to the rants of an angry man serves no purpose to anyone. I'm sorry you feel angry & hurt. I love you & your family with all my heart.

Rose"

 8:56 pm - From Derrick again: "That is a lie!  I told you that one time when you threw your fit and wanted full price for a broke down tractor!  I could not and still couldn't buy a tractor for 30 grand and put another 20 into it to fix it up!  I did not send Layne to your house to say anything so don't make things up and put words into my mouth!  My next offer to keep the tractor was yesterday and reasonably priced, then taken away from me in 5 hours!  You have lied a lot to yourself lately and believe them, please work on that!  What I said out of anger was all true!  That is who you are now!  You would even hear Judy out last night on how ridiculous you were being and what business you thought you were doing was tearing apart your closet family and not giving us 2 weeks like the original offer!  You changed the deal 3 times yesterday, final was cash only so I couldn't prove I bought anything?  What kind of offer is that to family?

N

You did this all to hurt me yesterday, and nobody knows why, when the biggest one you tore up was Layne!  He had no chance to save his memory either

Why did you take original offer off of the table in 5 hours, then not accept my check, then switch it to cash only?

Would that make you angry to, if someone offered to you to save something you loved and than said no just kidding, won't happen?"

 

After receiving Derrick’s text at 9:50 this morning I called Todd back at 9:11 am with Abilene Machine telling him Derrick will not stop the tractor being picked up.  He called me right back saying he will talk to the truck driver and get back with be about pickup times.  At 10:42 Andy, the truck driver, called to let me know he should arrive here between 3:00 & 4:00.  Todd called again at 10:47 telling me Andy would be calling me.  I expressed my gratitude for their dealings with Dad over the years and their kindness & understanding through the past few days. At 3:29 pm Andy called that he was just turning onto the dirt road at Selden and would be here in a few minutes.  I told him I’d meet him at the top of the road. 

 Mom & I met Andy and took him down to where the tractor was parked so he could see the trail to the tractor and where & how it  was parked.  He felt the best would be to drive his semi down to the creek bottom and load the tractor there.  This would be less time the engine would need to run not knowing how fast the oil spews out of the break.  Mom & I followed his truck.  Andy gave Mom the Abilene Machine check for $10,000 before he even walked to the tractor.  We sat on the 4-wheeler and watched him work.  Andy was so sweet.  He was very understanding and kind about all the on again, off again of family drama.  He let me take pictures of him with Mom beside the tractor once loaded on the trailer. He gave both of us hugs, saying he was sorry we had to go through the family drama when it is hard enough to lose the man we all love.  We came to the house to cool off while Andy chained down the tractor, rehooked his trailer, put up wide load signs and turned on his flashing lights.  I went back down and gave him a cold bottle of water and thanked him again for his understanding and kindness and how much Dad liked doing business them weather for parts or advice.

 Right before Andy was done, Layne pulled down the hill driving Derrick’s new tractor.  He had to wait for the semi to leave before he could unhook the implement for his tractor.  I waved at Layne when he drove into the field but I do not think he waved back at me.  If he did it was just that little limp wrist wave he does at times.  I’m sure he, too, was really missing Papa at that moment.

 It was so sad to watch the semi drive up the hill with Dad’s tractor loaded on the trailer.  It felt like I was saying goodbye to Dad all over again.  His toy and his joy was turning onto the road.  Another piece of Dad was leaving.

 

 

 

August 11, 2022

 August 11 Texts:  Red is what Derrick sent to me and the blue is what I wrote to Derrick

 10:07 am - How can you say you love us with all of your heart, and intently use the one thing you had to hurt me and my son! Grandpas final wishes was to keep the family together, but how do you expect me to try and do that when you did what you did and didn't even give us the chance! I really hope 10 grand was worth it!  I don't know how I will ever look at you the same, just like you couldn't look at Layne yesterday, cause you knew in what tiny piece of heart you have left you were hurting him the worst!  Attack me all you want for whatever chip you have on your shoulder, but you will never get the chance to hurt another one of my kids again! 

 10:16 am - 

You were the one person left on that farm that I could sit down and talk to about life!  We had a great future ahead of us on that farm!  Why why why, would you attack me and my family over a tractor that meant absolutely nothing to you, but everything to my son!  Please keep ignoring me!  It only shows the real you! 

 11.05: AM - I responded to Derrick:  

I'm sorry you feel I made any attack on you or your family. You said you did not want the tractor. The tractor is Mom's & not mine. Mom asked me to see what options were because she didn't need a tractor. I got options for repair, sell & salvage estimates. My siblings were given these options & asked for their opinions & all information was taken to Mom. She asked me to call AM for a salvage value. I did so & they made the offer tellung me it would be 2 weeks before they coukd pick it up. I said I needed to notify family & sent out the text & went to tell Mom. While I was there I received a call a call which I did not get till I got home later in the afternoon that a truck would be in the area the next day to pick it up. I had no say in their time line. I called AM saying I thought we had more time asked to cancel the deal. Then the owner called raising the offer & I went back to Mom's.

At this point you finally replied to my first text with anger & threats. I did contact AM again at 8 pm & he agreed to hold off a while to see if things calmed down here. Yes, I did say only cash not for you to not have a paper trail but was thinking bank money transfer. You were so mad I was afraid a personal check might not go through the bank for one reason or another. My mistake. I apologize for that not being stated exactly that way. I said I would not accept your check because it is Mom's tractor, not mine, & any money is hers not mine. It should have been given to her & it would have been done. Once you texted me again in the morning that would would not buy the tractor I again called AM. I waved at Layne when he pulled into the field. I was sad to watch Dad's toy & joy roll up the hill & turn down the road. I'm sure it was hard for Layne too. If you had really wanted the

tractor there has been 3 months that you could have researched options & made a deal with Mom. I do not feel I have made any personal attach on you or your family & I'm sorry you feel that way. I never had any intentions of attack or anger towards you. I'm deeply hurt by your words to me. I do not want any tensions between us. I do love you! I'm sorry that my actions in helping my parents hurt you. I want peace among us all.

Rose

 11:24 am - More from Derrick:

Grandma also told me that grandpa bought that tractor for layne and if I wanted to keep it around I could! You didn't listen to that part and pushed the sale through so fast so we wouldn't end up with it!  I wanted it at 7500 for my son and you knew that, but wouldn't take my check, that is where you went wrong and everyone will know that! You would not listen to Judy, or my mom!  You just wanted it gone and do "buisness" with someone other than me! Tell yourself what you want to hear so you feel better about being the fairy god mother, but god and grandpa watched you do it and there will be repercussions and karma for what you have done!  There will always be tension forever now over what you did unless you make this right!  I will have my guard up and protect me and my family from people that are out to hurt them like yourself!! How can you even think that there won't be tension!  I would have wrote the check, I would have written it in grandmas name, but you told me it wouldn't be accepted and you handle their banking! Don't change your story now and act like you did nothing wrong!  This was the breaking point for you and me unless it is fixed!  I will tell my story over and over unless you fix it!  I will not be there to help you out with a single thing unless you fix this!  I wanted you around for life and now can't stand the thought of seeing you and I live right there!  I have not spread this story very wide yet, but it's up to you on how far I take it!  You attacked me and my son over this deal, either fix it or lose my "family" supposedly people you "love" (ya right,I really don't believe you know what those two words mean) forever!  I will not forget, I will not let this blow over, I will not say a good word about you, I will repeat my side over and over and over, till this is fixed

 11:34 am - I also need a copy of my final dept to grandma and grandpa before you make any changes to it!

I have my old ones to prove your modifications

 2:54 pm - You better fix this!  You are not my family until you do!  I and my family will tell every single family member my side of this story and I guarantee we won't be the last ones you lose over this!  They will tear that tractor to pieces in just a few short days if you do not do something!  You have a very small window to fix the damage you have done

 The following are copied and pasted from messages on Tuesday that Derrick is sending to me at 3:37 pm today, Thurs, Aug 11:

Sending a check

No accepting.it

Rose

No accepting.it

Rose

No accepting.it

Rose

 3:56 pm – I sent following to Derrick after putting a copy of all transactions on his accounts owed to Gpa & Gma as he wanted.  I included copies that he received the end of 2020, all transactions from 2021, and interest on house loan for 8 months fir 2022.  December 13 was Dana’s last payment received.

A full accounting of your loans to Gma & Gpa as you requested are in your mailbox.

Rose

 3:57 pm – From Derrick to me:

I swear if there is one typo again I'm getting lawyers involved

No accepting.it

Rose

 Small window!  I'm telling you!  Accept it or don't!

I didn't want any of this Drama!  The people all know that!  You brought this all on your own!  You and only you started this shit show!

You thrive on drama, is the only reason you pushed me this far!

 7:03 pm -  Window getting smaller

 

Mom and I have spent a lot of time talking today.  Mom asked to read all the texts involved in this situation.  I opened up the Message ap and she read the full exchange between Derrick and me.  I gave her the same printouts on what Derrick owes her that I left in Derrick’s mailbox and we looked over it and I explained every transaction for her as she looked at it. 

Right now I am emotionally exhausted.  I wish he would just give it a rest.  He can tell the entire family – every one that he knows – about this as he has threatened. I do not care.  All family who know him and also know me - Providing he tells the entire story or his version of how I have wounded him, they can judge for themselves. 

I feel that these texts have been accusatory, harassing, bullying, threatening, horribly profane and nasty, and now trying to attack me emotionally.  His angry behavior in these texts he sent and in the way I have responded to him when I did respond speak for themselves.  Nothing I say at this time to him will change how he feels or satisfy him.  I do not plan to respond to any of his crap unless absolutely necessary.  I will not be provoked into acting his way. 

I am writing and documenting all this for my own peace.  I have always journaled to sort out events and feelings.  I am not angry.  I am deeply hurt and disappointed by these events that have taken place over the past few days.

I know Derrick is missing his Grandpa and hurting.  That is the only way that I can look at this behavior.  We all miss you, Daddy.  I love you, forever. 

 

Oh, crap! More texts from Derrick:  Can’t he stop now.  What is done is done and no response I make to him will be enough nor will he be satisfied.

7:31 pm

Copied from text Tuesday, Aug 9 - 6:38 pm text to me from Derrick:  “You priced it at 7500 at 10:38 this morning, which is a completely different story than a week after he died when you threw your greedy little bitch fit! I need time to price repairs, like I had at 10:38 this morning! I'll send a kid over with a check right fucking now if that's what it takes for you to feel good about your greedy inheritance chasing attitude!  I'm done dealing with you and I really hope your sisters are there to pick you up when you fall!”

Do you remember this part of the conversation when I said I would send a kid over with the check

Sounds like I really wanted the tractor

And then this part

Sending a check

No accepting.it  Rose

 

Can’t he stop now!  Surely he must be tired of texting to me that he has had to copy and paste from earlier texts he sent to me.  What is done is done and no response I make to him will be enough nor will he be satisfied by.  He is just an angry and grieving man.  I hate the fact that he will keep the kids from me because of his attitudes.  I can't change that.

This evening Mom told me after reading the texts all the way through that I did what she asked, she trusted me and appreciated all I do to help her.  She also said Dad would be proud of me in the way that I responded to Derrick’s rantings.

I believe that as soon as Mom passes Derrick will do everything in his power to kick me out of my home or make it so miserable for me that I will want to leave the farm.  Right now the naughty side of me wants to stay just to spite him.  I do not like being bullied.

Miss you, Dad.  Love you forever.

Rose